letter to my friend on the eve of her wedding

at the bachelorette party i recently attended the hostess had brought a sign-in book for everyone to share words of wisdom or pieces of advice for the bride.

knowing that i love to write, i am afraid my friend had high expectations of what i would put on my page. i had no idea of what to write so i mustered some odd sentences together and ended it with "R5 rules!", a personal joke that harkens back to our train ridership days. i needed time to dwell on what things i would say.

here's what i hope for your marriage:

that your relationship grows as comfortable and reliable as your favorite pair of underwear,

that your husband knows when to pretend he's sleeping and when to not let you cry alone in the dark,

that your in-laws are sweet, caring, people who remember their relationship with their own in-laws and respectfully treat you as they wanted to be treated,

that if your in-laws are not sweet, caring and respectful, i hope they live on the opposite coast,

that your good days together far outnumber your bad ones,

that you learn to communicate with a raised eyebrow, a wink, a look in a secret language only you two understand,

that you never go to bed angry --or if you do, you wake up to great, morning-make-up-sex.