intj
You are:
introverted +33 moderately expressed introvert
intuitive+12 slightly expressed intuitive personality
thinking +25 moderately expressed thinking personality
judging +78 very expressed judging personality
my rating didn't shock me so much as how dead-on the analysis was of me.
To outsiders, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age. When it comes to their own areas of expertise -- and INTJs can have several -- they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don't know.
INTJs are perfectionists, with a seemingly endless capacity for improving upon anything that takes their interest. What prevents them from becoming chronically bogged down in this pursuit of perfection is the pragmatism so characteristic of the type: INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake.
now my struggle to understand how my left-brain and right-brain passions can coexist in one body makes sense. my independent-streak evident as a small child when i would wear a purple corduroy jumper over teal corduroy pants and a turtleneck because - in my mind - they looked good together (and this was BEFORE the 80s adopted my color scheme. my abiility to piss people off because i "push the envelope" too far and ask too many questions. need to know the hows and whys.
INTJs are known as the "Systems Builders" of the types, perhaps in part because they possess the unusual trait combination of imagination and reliability. Whatever system an INTJ happens to be working on is for them the equivalent of a moral cause to an INFJ; both perfectionism and disregard for authority may come into play, as INTJs can be unsparing of both themselves and the others on the project. Anyone considered to be "slacking," including superiors, will lose their respect -- and will generally be made aware of this; INTJs have also been known to take it upon themselves to implement critical decisions without consulting their supervisors or co-workers.
once again, anyone who knows when i have my head wrapped around an idea, get the fcuk out of my way. 100% that last paragraph is me. i get myself into trouble because people rely on me to be the problem-solver, organizer and still get things done on deadline. at times i sit there and think, why am i doing this? if i do a good job, they are just going to ask me to do it again -- like a show-pony called in to work a miracle on a project. why do i do it? because dammit, i like to wear my gold-star sticker on my forehead the day i complete the task. for all of my confidence, i need the validation that i am good enough, smart enough and people like me. (thank you stewart smalley)
Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel. While they are capable of caring deeply for others (usually a select few), and are willing to spend a great deal of time and effort on a relationship, the knowledge and self-confidence that make them so successful in other areas can suddenly abandon or mislead them in interpersonal situations.
This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship). To complicate matters, INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand. Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense. :-) This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many Fs -- only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness.
me and small talk -- not fun. i just don't get the hang of it. before you think i'm stuck under a rock, i can talk to people if i am familiar with them or if it takes place in a small group or one-on-one situation when i can feel out the person. i am worried that i will have a "blond moment" with someone who doesn't know that i am not naturally an idiot. i am worried that my passion for certain topics will offend b/c it's not proper to talk about religion (against) or politics (as liberal as i wanna be). feminism, animal rights, gay rights? nope. nope. and nope.
if i know you and you know me? shit, we can talk for hours. until that point, i am guarded in my emotions and conversation, and unfortunately people pick up on it.
Probably the strongest INTJ assets in the interpersonal area are their intuitive abilities and their willingness to "work at" a relationship. Although as Ts they do not always have the kind of natural empathy that many Fs do, the Intuitive function can often act as a good substitute by synthesizing the probable meanings behind such things as tone of voice, turn of phrase, and facial expression. This ability can then be honed and directed by consistent, repeated efforts to understand and support those they care about, and those relationships which ultimately do become established with an INTJ tend to be characterized by their robustness, stability, and good communications.
the great empathisizer i AM NOT. my friends, all social animals and into touchy-feely emotions, called me out on not being more sympathetic to their needs. ask more questions about them and their goings on. i guess i was marsha to their jan in a "marsha, marsha, marsha" type of way.
i have a hard time asking questions, not because i am uncaring, but because i am clueless. if you don't share it, i may not pick up on your need for me to probe for your hidden needs (sounds dirty, no?). my supposed intuitiveness i think only works for dangerous people to stay away from -- a well-honed gut instinct. but in matters of good it falls silent.
i also want to things and people to make sense. do what you say you will. don't make excuses. take responsibility for your actions. if i were queen of the universe, these would be my laws. and no matter how much i love you, i am not the person to turn to when you need a should to cry on. tears ick me out. i feel helpless and can't understand why you wouldn't rather cry by yourself somewhere to let out the emotion instead of sharing it with me?
i guess that's when the very expressed judgemental side of me comes out.
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